It seems like more and more parents are struggling with their teen’s addiction to texting. Perhaps you’ve gotten the monthly cell phone bill only to find that thousands of text messages were sent from you teen’s phone. Don’t worry; this is not as tragic as you think!
First, understand that this technologically infiltrated generation is being trained to communicate in way that may seem non-conventional to you. Why would they text when they could call? Why would they have an entire online social network when they could just go be with their friends?! Though this may seem new and awkward to you, it is normal for them… and not entirely bad. Here are some thoughts for you:
- Don’t be too quick to cut off the texting of your teen – though it may seem unnatural to you, it is natural to them a main means for social interaction. Many teens today are able to maintain good relationships through texting – surprisingly.
- Set limits for texting, but allow freedom. Have some give-and-take when if comes to texting. Perhaps you won’t allow them to text at the dinner table, while in a conversation with you, or after 9 pm, but give them freedom to text at other times without consequence.
- Buy the unlimited plan. Most cell companies offer an unlimited texting plan – this can be cheaper than paying every time they go over. You don’t necessarily have to tell your teen that their texting is now “unlimited.” You can also cut down their talk-time minutes because they probably will always text more than they’ll talk.
- Tell your teen you have the right to read their messages at anytime. Texting can be a way teens get things by their parents. Don’t play ignorant. Demand access at anytime to ensure good interaction is going on with your teen and their friends.
- Learn to text. One of the greatest ways a parent can get into the world of their teen is by learning how to text. Send them message to let them know you love them and are praying for them.
Texting is not something to fear as a parent. It can be used to your advantage and it can be a great social tool for your teen. I hope this helps!
